Second Marriage Wedding Considerations

The first wedding was essentially all about you - not anymore !

If your on your way down the isle for the second time, then you already know that getting ready for this particular party was vastly different than planning for your first. While the first wedding was essentially all about you, this one is all about the paper work. 

Yes, there is the standard party planning weddings come with, like booking a hall or a band, getting registered and so forth, but with your second try, suddenly its all about who is paying for it. 

Is there going to be a pre-nap; am I still married to the first shmoe that I did this with, and so forth. 

Hold on to the death certificate or divorce papers 

Lets talk about that last one for a second, yes its important that if you have kids that you discuss their place in the ceremony, and of course its critical you both know what your going to wear during your part 2, but if your still legally married to your first true love, all bets are off. So tip one, hold on to the death certificate or divorce papers like your life depended on it - because your marriage does. Tip 2, don't rely on the parents of the bride.

Despite the fact that for the first wedding it's conceivable to expect them to pay for the whole shebang, you can't continue demanding them to pay for your mistakes - literally. This time, it will probably be up to you, so you better be prepared. 

Just because it's a second wedding doesn't mean you should slack off

Plan, budget, shop around, anticipate [and hope the checks are impressive]. And to the groom, if your second wife is new at the matrimonial scene, consider your self lucky and find the best looking suite you can lay your hands on. Just because it's your second wedding doesn't mean you should slack off!! Yes, you can theoretically wear whatever your want, and if it's the second wedding for both of you, you probably will, but a floral summer dress or cowboy boots dot really say "I want to be with you for ever" or "this is the happiest moment of my life". If you want to do that, go traditional. 

What about Making sure the kids are in the loop

Let's regroup, my first tip is make sure the ex is gone, second, make sure you have the money, and third, dress however you want but traditional is fitting the general ambiance. Now the forth, one of your wedding planning jobs is making sure the kids are in the loop. If you have children coming to your party, make sure their emotionally prepared for the life altering decision you made for them, it will make your day run smoother when it finally comes. 

I recommend you let them do as much or as little as they want, even if you have fantasies about your little boy walking down the isle with the ring, or of your little girl spreading rose pedals every half step - don't force it. 

The wedding is about joining your lives, not about a party

And remember, if it's your fiancé's kids, no one cares that you have life long friends or family, if the kid is old enough to be a bridesmaid or groomsmen, he gets first shot. Remember that the wedding is about joining your lives, not about a party. So, if the kids want to help with the planning - from tasting the food to picking out the colors - make them happy, your wedding lasts a couple of hours, but you'll have to deal with the aftermaths of the party for quite a while.